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Q. I'm always stressed out and I feel like it's starting to affect my
personal relationships. How can I stop the anxiety?

A. A small amount of stress is actually good for the human brain, according
to new studies. However, if you're stressing about mundane things in life,
that can wreak havoc on your health and mental state. What are you
stressed out about? If it's school work, try to get your essays and studying
done early on and that will help. Going for a job interview? Make sure you
know what you're going to say beforehand. After a particularly stressful day,
light some candles, sip some champagne and take a long, luxurious
bubble bath. Or, write down your thoughts. Often, just voicing your concerns
on paper will help ease the anxiety. If you find yourself feeling depressed or
negative around friends, attempt to change your attitude. You could tell
family and friends that you're trying to change your stress level and see if
they have any suggestions, as they know you well. Good luck.
Q. My friend is going out with the
wrong guy. He talks about her
behind her back and makes crude
comments about her gfs. Should I
say something to her?

A. Probably. She may hate you though
for saying something, but he sounds
like bad news. Just state, "I know you
really like so and so, but I thought you
should know he says some not very
nice things about you behind your
back." She may accuse you of being
jealous or trying to split them up, but
at least she will know how you feel.
Don't push it because otherwise it will
just piss her off but she has a right to
know the truth about this loser.
Q. Growing up, I always planned on being a lawyer.  I've just started going
to law school and I'm really not happy. I don't think I want to be a lawyer
after all, but my family would be heartbroken if I backed out now. What
should I do?

A. It can be scary when you work for something, only to discover later that it
isn't what you want anyway. The harder you work for something, the higher
your expectations are likely to be. Before you think about quitting law school,
recall the reasons you decided to study it in the first place. What drew you
do it? Talk with other law students, your professors or attorneys about your
concerns because maybe some went through this. If you really are
miserable though, start looking into different options and remember that the
skills you learn in law school will probably tie over into other careers so your
time spent in law school was not a waste.
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